5 Things You’re Doing That Confuse Your Dog (Don’t Worry—They Still Love You)

September 2, 2025

1. Using Words Without Context

Your dog doesn’t understand full sentences. They rely heavily on tone, body language, and familiar cues. So when you say, “No! Don’t chew the pillow again, remember what happened last time?”—they likely just hear noise and emotion.

What to do: Keep your commands short and consistent. Use the same words for specific actions (“Sit,” “Down,” “Leave it”) and pair them with clear signals.

2. Changing the Routine Without Warning

Dogs thrive on routine. They get used to walk times, feeding times, bedtime, and even when you typically leave the house. Sudden changes (like working late, skipping walks, or rearranging furniture) can cause confusion or anxiety.

What to do: When possible, keep a consistent schedule. If changes are necessary, ease them in gradually and offer reassurance with affection or treats.

3. Punishing After the Fact

Coming home to a chewed shoe or an accident and scolding your dog hours later doesn’t actually help. Dogs don’t have the ability to connect your reaction to something they did earlier in the day.

What to do: If you catch them in the act, a gentle redirect can help. Otherwise, clean up and move on—then find ways to prevent it in the future (more exercise, crate training, puzzle toys, etc.).

4. Hugging Too Much

It’s totally natural to want to hug your dog—they’re adorable and cuddly. But in the canine world, hugging can feel like being trapped or dominated. Some dogs tolerate it, but many don’t enjoy it and feel stressed.

What to do: Pay attention to your dog’s body language—ears back, licking lips, trying to squirm away are signs they’re uncomfortable. Show affection in ways they enjoy, like gentle pets or belly rubs.

5. Mixing Commands and Emotions

Saying “Come here!” in an angry or frustrated tone sends mixed signals. Your dog hears the words, but your tone might say “stay away.” This can make training more difficult or even cause your dog to become anxious around certain cues.

What to do: Stay calm and positive when giving commands, even if you’re feeling stressed. Dogs are highly sensitive to your emotions and respond better to upbeat, consistent guidance.

Final Thoughts

Your dog doesn’t expect you to be perfect. But by learning more about how they see the world, you can build a deeper, more trusting relationship. Small adjustments in how you communicate can make a big difference in their behavior, comfort, and overall happiness.

And remember—if your dog ever looks at you like you’re a little bit weird, don’t take it personally. You probably are. But they still think you’re the best thing in their whole world.